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+ work at your own pace
+ Strengthen Attachment
+ Establish Healthy Boundaries
Embark on a transformative journey with the "Get to the Roots" ONLINE COURSE.
Are you ready to rewrite your love story?
+ Heal Past wounds
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With the Marriage First Method of relationship coaching, you are provided with an instant team.
We aren't just people giving you tips,
we are in it with you.
We have been in your position, desperate for improvement - wanting to feel the love and connection again.
YOU NEED A TEAM, NOT A TEACHER
We will show you how to create a relationship that is truly extraordinary, filled with passion, and joy.
Couples coaching sounds good
but you'd like to work on yourself first
Hi, my name is Doug. As a licensed therapist (MS, LPC), I have been helping people just like you for many years.
My goal is to help you dive deep, beyond the surface of your symptoms and heal the wounds that are negatively affecting your life.
With a specialization in Attachment Theory and Trauma, together we can break the cycles that have been holding you back.
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PreMarital Coaching
No need to wait until you are married to establish a fulfilling marriage.
Marriage First offers premarital coaching so you can start off on the right foot and set your marriage up for a lifetime of fulfillment and happiness.
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You can no longer afford to stay stuck in the same conflict over and over again. The recurring arguments, and the emotional exhaustion just lead to burnout and hopelessness.
Together, you can learn how to experience new feelings, and understanding.
After all, you didn't come into this relationship to waste your time, did you? No. You came into it to feel safe, loved, accepted, and understood.
Let's transform the unhealthy parts of your relationship and create an unbreakable relationship. One that functions as a team, not as opponents.
SAME FIGHTS, SAME FEELINGS
IT CAN BE BETTER
It's time to go all in on your marriage
Does this sound familiar?
We're coexisting as two individuals in the same space
We don't know how to control our emotions.
We are not very good at communication.
Our marriage is stuck in a repeating pattern.
I feel ignored, unseen, and untrusted.
When we have conflict, the arguments get really bad.
I just don’t know what to say so I don’t say anything at all.
"What we're doing is not working."
Permanent restoration is possible. Let’s begin your healing journey.
What if we told you that if you and your partner learned more about each other’s deeply rooted wounds, the problems you are experiencing would come to be understood as symptoms?
If you could heal the deep wounds; would the symptoms start to go away?
You know it can be better.
That’s why you’re here.
We know it can be better too.
That’s why we’re here.
What if we told you that the problems you are experiencing in your relationship are not the primary issues in your relationship?
What iF?
We believe the answer is YES!
We didn’t know what we were doing.
We never fight!
It was at this point that we realized…
As time went on, violations occurred, our values collided, our past hurts and attachment wounds were triggered.
We thought we had a perfect marriage. Conflict was not present, mean words were not spoken, disagreements slipped into the background. We thought we had it all figured out.
Angry words came out, the intensity of our voices reached an unacceptable level, it felt hopeless.
Fast forward many fights and long days of not talking to one another later... we invested into our marriage instead of giving into the temptation of divorce. Since then we have learned so much about ourselves and about how to do this marriage thing. And we want you to experience the healing that can come from the hurting. It's not over yet.
We invite you to join us, to put your marriage first, and watch everything else in your life fall into place.
We have been where you are. We know what it is like to feel ignored, unseen, and untrusted. We have felt the pain of being stuck, of not knowing how to say what we need to say, of not knowing how to control our emotions. Like you, we didn't understand why our conflicts were getting so heated and ugly.
We didn't understand each other.
We didn't understand ourselves.
put your marriage first
Together since 2012, and married in early 2015. Each of us came into the relationship with no relationship expertise whatsoever. In 2017 our lack of emotional intelligence began to show, and it quickly took over our marriage. We had become something ugly, something out of control. There was hardly enough love left to keep us from divorce.
It was time. Off to therapy we went. It was intense. It was eye opening. To realize that your partner doesn't hold all the blame for your unhappiness in the marriage is not what we expected to learn. We had to learn about ourselves, swallow our pride and see our own faults. Ouch. We learned, begrudgingly, that many of our patterns and wounds involving conflict are just coping mechanisms that were used to protect us in the past. And oh man, were they ineffective.
Those coping mechanisms helped form our attachment styles. And our attachment styles shape all of our interactions. They were the reason we could not connect.
We learned how to heal our wounds, our trauma, and ultimately our marriage. We are a success story on healing attachment wounds and the powerful positive impact it has on not only our marriage, but our friendships, our careers, and how a healthy marriage can generationally impact our children and those around us.
Doug is a licensed therapist with a special interest in helping those with trauma wounds. After experiencing the healing effects of therapy in our marriage he began to study marriage therapy techniques and has worked with couples ever since. He has a passion for helping couples recover and thrive. Marissa has studied the same training material and now we work together, providing couples a unique opportunity to be coached through their troubles by two people who have been there and who have studied that. We want you to experience the same healing we have. Put your Marriage First so that you can heal and become the version of yourself that you have always wanted to be.
Meet Doug & Marissa
your marriage first team
Think about your wounds. Where were they formed? Who contributed to them? How do they influence the way you operate in your relationships today? We are here to help guide you through the process of thinking through those things. To help you understand yourself and your spouse in a more powerful and honest way. To empower you to become the best of version of yourself for you and your spouse.
What do you think about marriage? we see marriage as the driver of our healing. We were wounded in relationships, therefore we must heal in relationships. our marriage, more than any other relationship, provides us the greatest opportunity and most potential to heal. we want you to see your marriage in the same light.
how can we help?
Please let us know if you have any questions and we will do our best to get back to you as soon as possible.
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